CLEAR EXPECTATIONS
How To Develop Expectations
What are the social expectations --How they get along with each other, ect.
- School Expectations-- regarding point sheets, grades, teacher reports
- Family Chores --Do you expect your kids to clean up after themselves? Do they know how?
- Personal Appearance-- Showers baths, hair combing
- Religious--church attendance, prayer volunteering
- After you have listed your expectations, consider , are they reasonable for your children?
- Are the expectations that You currently have appropriate for their age and their abilities?
Determining wheather expectations are appropriate requires reasonable thinking.
Remember AGE, ABILITIES, RESOURCES
HERE IS HOW TO TELL IF AN EXPECTATION IS REASONABLE:
- Have you taught the expectation
- Can your child understand the expectation
- Can your child demonstrate what you expect.
Some parents write down their expectations in the form of a parent contract. There are many resources about parent contracting with young children. Behavioral Contracts are one way of putting behavioral expectations in writing
How To Clarify Expectations
- Describe expectations in a positive way that is, rather than telling your child what NOT to do, put emphasis on telling them what TO Do.
- Praising behavior that is consistent with your expectations and correcting behavior that does not match your expectations.
Clear expectations help kids understand what they should and should not do. They provide a framework for positive behavior. Even though kids won't meet your expectations all of the time, consistency an dpatience will pay off in the long run. Remember to ask yourself three important questions:
- HAVE I TAUGHT WHAT I EXPECT?
- DO MY CHILDREN UNDERSTAND WHAT I EXPECT?
- CAN MY CHILDREN DEMONSTRATE WHAT I EXPECT?
Listen carefully to the audio excerpt about clear expectations..
Now listen to the audio about clear messages:
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